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  • I would suggest a few things. First, be genuinely open minded to the discussion/topic (as in your opinion can change with a good enough argument.

    Second, I would suggest using “feeling” language as much as possible. Examples are: “I feel like that will cause an issue with…”, “my understanding is…”, “my thoughts are…”, “from what I’ve seen/read the setup is …”, etc. From my perspective, feeling language lowers the “absoluteness” of statements and makes conversions easier by changing them from arguing absolute truths, to discussing lived experiences.

    Third would be to reframe the discussion/argument from “you vs them” to the two of you vs a problem/issue and you both are working together to find the answer. This somewhat goes with being open minded.

    Fourth, I don’t think works too well in online discussions, but in person I find starting from a base situation and asking the other person their thoughts on it, and adding your own, works well. So, start with a base situation and then adding a little complexity each time you both agree on the outcome and reasoning. Once you’ve found your divergence point you can start having your discussion about the pros/cons of different approaches/solutions to that specific situation.



  • No worries :)

    • Not sure we have a Hobbydrama, but it’s also not my interest, so I could have blocked it.
    • Cursedcrochet looks fun. We have an active knitting community, but probably not enough activity/users for a specific “cursedcrochet” community at this point. Also have a semi-active leatherwork community, if that’s of interest.
    • Wunkus seems great. I think the closest match we may have would be Scrungy Cats, but there could be communities I don’t know about.
    • Also, in a different comment someone mentioned the solarpunk communities (basically anything on the slrpnk.net instance), I’m a big fan of those, and think they’re worth checking out.

    The threadiverse (roughly the reddit-like part of the fediverse) is pretty small (~43k MAU), so if something doesn’t exist and you want it to, your probably going to have to start and build it yourself.

    I was kind of off-put by that initially, but I kind of like it now. It’s kind of like building your own little space and people can come check it out and see what you’ve been building and contribute if they feel like it. I created fedilytics (Fediverse-Analytics) a couple months ago because I was curious how the fediverse was doing. It’s not particularly active with other people (got first non-me post yesterday!), but I mostly built it for myself and enjoy anytime someone stops in to talk in the comments.

    If you do decide to make a community in the future, I’d suggest making the post in the community and then cross-posting it, to a larger relevant community, to increase traffic to your post (as many people just stick to their subscribed feed).


  • If you provide some of your interests/hobbies, we can probably be more helpful.

    That being said, I think these are a few active and interesting communities:

    Regarding places to avoid, I don’t think anyplace needs to be avoided, per say. Politics can be problematic, if you go into those posts.

    There’s no real algorithm, so you need to curate your own feed. In general, I’d suggest, if you see a community that could interest you, just subscribe. You can always unsubscribe later (if it turns out not to be what you want), but getting a denser “good stuff” home feed is beneficial.

    By the same token, I’d suggest blocking communities you have zero interest in (helps filtering, so you come across more content you are interested in when browsing “All”). If you run into a problematic user, report (if they have done something reportable), block, and move on.

    If 2 communities are posting the same content and you get tired of seeing double, I’d suggest removing the community from the bigger or flagship instance (ex. Lemmy.ml, Lemmy.world, Piefed.Social).

    This would have the effect of distributing the communities across the threadiverse rather than having them bunch up on a few. A problem with bunching can be if an instance goes down, they take their users/communities with them. Most of the medium/large instances in the threadiverse are stable, but it has happened in the past (Lemm.ee).

    My understanding is this should be much less of a problem in the future, they are working on making user profiles and communities transferable between instances/servers.

    Note: there is an active autism community, if that’s of interest to you.











  • Apparently I like War, Mystery, and Comedy. List:

    • Andor: Is great, even if you aren’t a Star Wars fan. Each 3 episode arc is better than the last. Only planned as 1 season, but did so well they made a Season 2 and Season 2 is better. You can use Rogue One as a cap to the series.

    • Veronica Mars: watched all of it for the first time this year. It holds up 20+ years later.

    • Ted Lasso: Comedy about a college American Football coach coaching English Football/soccer.

    • The Good Place: Strangely a philosophy heavy comedy. It slows in places, but is absolutely worth watching.

    • Schmitt’s Creek: Comedy about unlikeable rich people becoming poor. It takes a bit to start, but each season is better than the last and nails the landing.

    Possibles:

    • Altered Carbon (Season 1): Great murder mystery set in a cyberpunk, dystopian future.

    • Shogun: Medieval Japan samurai “game of thrones”-esk show. Only planned as 1 season, but did so well they are making a Season 2.

    • Band of Brothers: War show about American rangers in WW2.




  • I really enjoyed it when it was airing. I don’t know if I’d enjoy a rewatch today, because the writing is rough in several places.

    I feel its kind of similar to agents of shield where they outlived their original plan and had to adapt and come up with new plot arcs (and I think it shows, in both series). Though, I think their forced adaptions created some of the best new and interesting sci-fi concept explorations to come to TV for a while.

    I’m also a sucker for “then it got worse” type shows, where the characters are struggling and doing their best to improve their situation, but every step forward is followed by being pushed a couple steps back through no fault of their own.

    All that being said, I like S2 of The 100 best. S1 of the show is probably up there, starting after

    Tap for spoiler

    Wells is murdered

    . I think once that happens, its clear this is not a typical CW show.


  • Yes, but I’m not sure it will be to the same extent.

    I think gamifying the setup leads to internal competition that will push them harder to make sure there is evidence of their results. That may have them make questionable decisions that they wouldn’t otherwise, if they didn’t need the evidence dog their efforts.

    Additionally, I suspect the public points system cuts back on disgruntled-ness, as units can easily see how they compare to others. It also allows them to see who to talk to, to see how to improve their results.

    So, pros and cons to the gamification, but I think the pros are going to win out. I doubt that’s a good thing though…