• Bojimbo@kbin.social
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          What makes the space toxic? It just seemed like they were trying to make an inclusive space and had issues being able to moderate homophobia and anti-trans bigotry coming from these two instances and are finding alternative options. I understand why many (myself included) wouldnt like this, but I haven’t seen much toxicity inside the actual instance.

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            Lol “anti-trans bigotry” so like I said, toxic as fuck. Those anti-*ism and anti-*phobe communities are always toxic, and not only because they typically allow and encourage certain *isms and *phobias. Oh, and socialism is the top community there, you know the deadliest ideology in modern human history.

            Oh, and this is an interesting read.

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              Being anti-transphobia is not toxic.

              And wow, thanks for linking to a completely random post of a singular person’s negative experience with bottom surgery, you using that incredibly specific post certainly doesn’t tell us what you think of trans people.

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                “Yeah guys it’s ok to swarm someone and tell them to kill themselves for coming out about their experiences being less than perfect, we’re really just soooo accepting uwuwuwuwu”

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                People love to find rare negative examples and signal boost them to the stars, if they don’t like something. I wish people were trying harder to be the people Mr. Rogers knew they could be.

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                  Examples like this are not rare. There is very much an unwritten rule within the trans community that you are not allowed, under any circumstance, to voice any negative experiences with transition. That’s why the trans community is also so hostile towards detransitioners even attempting to take over r/detrans on Reddit.

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                    I went to r/actual_detrans to ask for negative experiences and reasons not to have surgery before I went ahead with it. I didn’t ask on r/detrans because it was TERFy AF when I went looking for possible information sources. I wouldn’t have participated in a takeover effort, though. That’s shitty.

                    Toxic positivity is real.

                    That having been said… Yes, rare. Detransition is rare. On a planet of multiple billions of people, yes, you can find “a lot” of people, in terms of strict numeric count, but they’re a tiny fraction of all people who transition.