• MajorHavoc@programming.dev
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    10 days ago

    I’m tired of calling John, John, every time I refer to Join, but I wasn’t paying attention to John’s pronouns, so now I’m stuck until I have a chance to ask John, when I next see John.

    Source: I’ve done this, actually. I hope I was more subtle.

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      10 days ago

      Remember when we just conversed like human beings and didn’t have all this convoluted nonsense about worrying over pronouns?

      If the person is called John, 99.9% of the time, you know what the pronouns would be, because not everyone is terminally online.

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        9 days ago

        because not everyone is terminally online.

        LGBT people exist irl too, you’d be surprised how many there are once you get to know them. People you never would’ve thought were lgbt you can now recognize. I’m from Florida which is pretty conservative and I know 5+ trans people (including non-binary).

        They’re pretty cool too! I have a trans guy friend who will absolutely LOVE to talk about how cars work and fishing spots given the chance. He taught me how to change the oil on my car. I’m hoping to get him a blahaj for Christmas :)

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          The “terminally online” aspect is the obsession with pronouns, which doesn’t seem to exist in reality.

          I know quite a few LGBT people and even work with someone who is trans. None of them have ever once mentioned anything about pronouns. Because we just conversed like normal people.