Shit, I’ve been banned from lemmy communities for comments that I don’t even think of as being that dark. Reddit too. You don’t see as much death and misery as I saw without developing some level of gallows humor.

But the shit I got banned for was me self checking. Minimising the extremity of it. Tweaking the phrasing so it should have been obvious it was dark humor (not that anyone had to find it funny, but it was pretty fucking obvious it was dark humor).

There’s maybe three people I’ve ever known that have been around my darkest humor and not freaked out a little. One of those still needed to state they weren’t okay with it, but recognised it as dark humor.

Only people that I’ve had extended interactions with that really got the darkest stuff and laughed too were also people that have seen what real darkness is and recognize that finding a way to laugh at it is the only way you keep from breaking entirely.

Truth be told, that entirely is doing a lot of work there. Some shit breaks you, and not all the mental superglue in the world will fix it. But dark humor is good glue. It holds shit into one piece instead of destroying you, and I reckon that anyone that doesn’t get that isn’t worth my time and energy anyway