I don’t really know where to ask this.
I need to work on my self-esteem issues, a lot of which are caused by my home life. I’m “not logical”, clumsy, dumb, not smart, etc.
But they call me smart when it comes to my schoolwork as in, “You’re smart, you can do your work.” When I’m stressed.
My family wants me to be perfect and I’m just not.
They make jokes when I’m upset, and when I’m upset or try to tell them, I’m “too sensitive” and they go on about how insecure and how weak I am.
I broke up with my partner. They said I was too sensitive and insecure because I was upset about having to block the person. One of them laughed and said “You’re still upset?” When it happened 30 minutes before they said that.
Even my sister puts me down or calls me names sometimes to fit in.
You’re obviously going to have doubts about the validity of your feelings under a roof with that much ignorance. People can be dismissive for many reasons, but I think language can sometimes be important. If you don’t exude confidence it tends to be treated as affirmation of your views not mattering.
If you state plainly that you’re upset, you’d like some of their time, advice, and attention, and you still receive this type of response, it’s reasonable to write them off and lean on friends instead. Highly recommend therapy.