I’ll check out that app. And I get wanting big city meetings over what I have run into in rural area’s. The infighting was nauseating. Crosstalk, threats, epeen comparing, I walked of the last one midway thru.
I hit a couple meetings in LA and San Diego (before I got bad I went to support a friend) and meetings were 100x more civil. So I seen what your saying. And like you said way diverse, I got more out of it than you know.
Again thank you and everyone else on here for taking the time to help me.
Search ‘AA Intergroup [the name of the city]’ The website will list all the local meetings, live and online.
I go to a 6 am Zoom meeting that gets people from all over.
Also, the bigger places usually have a variety of meetings. Men only; women only; young people; LGBTQ+; etc.
Finally, don’t worry about the jargon. A lot of people like to talk about the Steps, The Program, The Big Book. It can be overwhelming, but it all comes down to one person sharing their own truth. Good luck
‘Closed’ means that only people with a drinking problem can come in.
“Open” means that you can bring a friend, or that anyone with an interest in the program can come in. Anniversary meetings are usually open so people’s families can come.
“Meditation” means that they dim the lights and silently meditate.
“Speaker” means someone shares their personal journey for 15 minutes or so.
“Literature” means they read from The Big Book, the Twelve Steps and the Twelve Traditions, or other AA books.
Another jargon you’ll hear is ‘sponsor.’ A sponsor is an AA who you feel comfortable with. Some people pick a temporary sponsor at their first meeting. Other people wait until they feel comfortable. It took me two years before I got one.
Most meetings take a minute at the start to ask if there is anyone new to the meeting. You don’t have to answer if you don’t want to. If you’re online you can usually send a private message to the host and ask for phone numbers or information.
My suggestion for you would be to find a seven day a week meeting you can get to every day. It can be early morning before work/school; or at noon on your meal break; or before you go to bed. I started out going to the same meeting every day after work and a couple of weekend meetings near me. Other people like to drop in whenever they feel the need. Some newcomers spend all day in meetings. Personally, I could only handle one a day at the start.
Ok thats what I needed, now the meetings notes make more sense.
I’ll dig in tomorrow, tonight I’m still feeling out of sorts. Or maybe just listen in a online meeting. But on a brighter note my symptoms feel like they are going away. No heart racing, no fever, just feel icky w/ a very light headache and the occasional sweating.
I’ll keep you posted tomorrow (Day 2) on how its going. Also I have to say it again thank you for all the help/explaining/etc it means a lot!
You can go to an online meeting. Name yourself ‘Just Listening’. Most will let you leave the camera off. As long as you don’t interrupt you can stay. You can also message the host if you want to know more. Each meeting is differnet, and Zoom bombers have been a problem, but generally newcomers are given plenty of leeway.
I’ll give that a go, I’m struggling a bit right now and I can’t let going back happen. Hour and a half that option is gone (can’t sell beer after midnight here). Until then off to see what meetings are open.
I feel that, it sucks I have a beer shop and a liquor story literally right next door. I just opted for funny/interesting YT vids until midnight. My version of hanging onto the bed.
I opted out of ant zoom calls as I was trying to get the thoughts out of my head. Slept terrible, couldn’t fall asleep until 0400 and the most surreal dreams kept that sleep fitful at best.
I do feel better than yesterday so so thats keeping going. Need to eat more today, head feels much clearer, I think some gator-aid or the like would be a good idea too.
And thanks for taking the time to reply, its helping more than you know.
I’ll try a speaker meeting asap, hearing stories like you posted will be inspiring because if they can do it so can I. And 3 hours will be the end of day 2, looking forward to starting day 3 :)
I’ll check out that app. And I get wanting big city meetings over what I have run into in rural area’s. The infighting was nauseating. Crosstalk, threats, epeen comparing, I walked of the last one midway thru.
I hit a couple meetings in LA and San Diego (before I got bad I went to support a friend) and meetings were 100x more civil. So I seen what your saying. And like you said way diverse, I got more out of it than you know.
Again thank you and everyone else on here for taking the time to help me.
Search ‘AA Intergroup [the name of the city]’ The website will list all the local meetings, live and online.
I go to a 6 am Zoom meeting that gets people from all over.
Also, the bigger places usually have a variety of meetings. Men only; women only; young people; LGBTQ+; etc.
Finally, don’t worry about the jargon. A lot of people like to talk about the Steps, The Program, The Big Book. It can be overwhelming, but it all comes down to one person sharing their own truth. Good luck
Will do, online is probably better option until I feel normal again. It would just be super awkward to be there IRL.
And I have seen a lot of jargon in my looking around like open/closed meetings?
‘Closed’ means that only people with a drinking problem can come in.
“Open” means that you can bring a friend, or that anyone with an interest in the program can come in. Anniversary meetings are usually open so people’s families can come.
“Meditation” means that they dim the lights and silently meditate.
“Speaker” means someone shares their personal journey for 15 minutes or so.
“Literature” means they read from The Big Book, the Twelve Steps and the Twelve Traditions, or other AA books.
Another jargon you’ll hear is ‘sponsor.’ A sponsor is an AA who you feel comfortable with. Some people pick a temporary sponsor at their first meeting. Other people wait until they feel comfortable. It took me two years before I got one.
Most meetings take a minute at the start to ask if there is anyone new to the meeting. You don’t have to answer if you don’t want to. If you’re online you can usually send a private message to the host and ask for phone numbers or information.
My suggestion for you would be to find a seven day a week meeting you can get to every day. It can be early morning before work/school; or at noon on your meal break; or before you go to bed. I started out going to the same meeting every day after work and a couple of weekend meetings near me. Other people like to drop in whenever they feel the need. Some newcomers spend all day in meetings. Personally, I could only handle one a day at the start.
Ok thats what I needed, now the meetings notes make more sense.
I’ll dig in tomorrow, tonight I’m still feeling out of sorts. Or maybe just listen in a online meeting. But on a brighter note my symptoms feel like they are going away. No heart racing, no fever, just feel icky w/ a very light headache and the occasional sweating.
I’ll keep you posted tomorrow (Day 2) on how its going. Also I have to say it again thank you for all the help/explaining/etc it means a lot!
You can go to an online meeting. Name yourself ‘Just Listening’. Most will let you leave the camera off. As long as you don’t interrupt you can stay. You can also message the host if you want to know more. Each meeting is differnet, and Zoom bombers have been a problem, but generally newcomers are given plenty of leeway.
Good luck
I’ll give that a go, I’m struggling a bit right now and I can’t let going back happen. Hour and a half that option is gone (can’t sell beer after midnight here). Until then off to see what meetings are open.
I heard this story from an oldtimer.
Back in the day, he was in a cheap hotel in Philadelphia. There was a bar in the lobby.
He spent all night holding onto the bed, because he knew if he let himself get up he’d drink.
My first few months I went to speaker meetings so I’d hear stories like that.
I feel that, it sucks I have a beer shop and a liquor story literally right next door. I just opted for funny/interesting YT vids until midnight. My version of hanging onto the bed.
I opted out of ant zoom calls as I was trying to get the thoughts out of my head. Slept terrible, couldn’t fall asleep until 0400 and the most surreal dreams kept that sleep fitful at best.
I do feel better than yesterday so so thats keeping going. Need to eat more today, head feels much clearer, I think some gator-aid or the like would be a good idea too.
And thanks for taking the time to reply, its helping more than you know.
I’ll try a speaker meeting asap, hearing stories like you posted will be inspiring because if they can do it so can I. And 3 hours will be the end of day 2, looking forward to starting day 3 :)