DistressedDad

I’m originally from the UK but moved to Canada when little.

Fall is my favorite season. I LOVE cold, dark, rainy days. My entire body just feels relaxed.

Summers here are getting hotter and hotter, with long stretches of 30c where you can’t do anything.

Winters here are either painfully freezing with face-cracking winds or giant dumpings of snow that make getting around impossible

Fall is a nice blend of cooler temps, a little rain, a little darkness, a fresh start with kids gone back to school, just generally pleasant as long as you don’t have to clean up too many fallen leaves :)

Is it normal? Yes. Is it healthy? No. I wish I spent my younger years focused on building myself rather than worrying about things out of my control.

Find yourself. Find what motivates you and makes you happy. Learn to be happy on your own. Learn to be confident without the validation from others. As you go through that journey, you’ll run into similar like-minded people and maybe some that you’re actually attracted to (lol)

It’ll happen when you least expect it when you’re focused on other priorities. Hope this helps.

I bop to Kidz Bop.

The question was “What type of stuff are you buying off Aliexpress?”

I started responding with “toys, cleaning supplies, phone cases, etc.” And then I noticed I was responding to a post on ** Aliexpress@programming.dev**

So I felt like my response wouldn’t be as helpful or would be off-topic because I was responding on the programming.dev instance.

Right? That makes sense right? LOL

I start to respond to a post or comment that I see on NEW. I finish and right before I hit post, I notice the instance/server is completely unrelated to my response and I deleted my post :) - It’s an added nuance to Lemmy that takes some getting used to.

I pulled the hydrometer out of my cigar humidor to became more aware of the dampness of my basement. I also spent over $1,000 on evicting a family of raccoons out from under my backyard deck. So yeah, I get it HAH

I’m in the same boat. Bought a home in 2020. It’s been a constant stream of fixes and updates and replacements. My mortgage payments are high enough. Now we’re dumping thousands of dollars on flood prevention, evestrough replacement, random leaky pipes, furnace cleaning, deck refinishing, grass and landscaping. Wife and I both work full-time. We are dipping into savings to upkeep our home. I totally regret it. Should have bought a 2-3bed condo instead. At least we could plan for the monthly condo fees and not worry about sudden emergency fixes. I don’t know. I hate it.

the thing about having your soul-sucked is that you can bounce back and recover. and let me tell ya, it’s a whole lot easier to recover with money than without. The second part of your response seems to come with a little baggage. Maybe you should follow the money to afford a therapist? LOL

I agree with what you’re saying. You gotta work even when you don’t feel like it. Being passionate makes it easier to work (in some cases).

I know people like this. They truly believe like they are doing society a favor by buying up houses and renting them out. The disconnect from reality is wild.

Serious - Don’t follow your passion. I did. Went to school for something I was passionate about. Did well and graduated. I got a job in my field. But soon enough, my passion felt like work. My priorities shifted as I aged and I grew to hate what I studied and once fell passionate about.

Find a career path that makes you money. Once you have that money you can make time to dabble in your passion projects and hobbies. Just wanted to add a different perspective to the meme :)

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