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  • To shame someone is entirely different than to feel ashamed of yourself.

    Is it? The end result is a feeling of shame. And that feeling of shame, doesn’t make people lose weight. I’ve now said it for the 4th time. But yeah, I’m the one that doesn’t understand words.

    If you kick a dog, you should feel ashamed of yourself without someone shaming you. If you forgo a healthy weight or lifestyle in favor of overconsumption and ignorance, you should feel ashamed of yourself without someone shaming you.

    I see, so it’s a moral failing of someone to be fat? Akin to kicking a dog? Wild take.

    In the end, you’re right. I’m not interested in having this conversation. Because this isn’t a conversation about making people healthier, it’s a moral conversation. And I don’t think someone is immoral for having an eating disorder just as I don’t think someone is immoral for having cancer.

    If you would like to discuss actionable, material ways to help people I’m all in. If you want to larp as a televangelist screeching about the evils of being fat, I’m out.









  • Damn that’s sad to hear man.

    I think I now understand why you believe women are only interested in extracting value out of you. It’s because that’s how you’ve been treated. And further, you’ve accepted this as a universal truth. And when entering new relationships yourself, you start with the question, what value can I extract from this other person? That’s probably why you don’t have any male friends, because you can’t extract any value from them. And you self-select for romantic relationships in the same way. You’re stuck in a cycle. If you remain set in your view that relationships are transactional, it’s hard to imagine you ever experiencing one that is not.



  • I don’t think most women are that cynical. Like do transactional relationships exist? Absolutely, but I don’t think that’s the majority of them and you probably don’t want that kind of relationship anyways.

    In fact, in my experience, women are typically made uncomfortable when I try to insist on paying for the entire bill on a date.

    I think for a lot of women, it’s as simple as, “am I comfortable and do I have fun when I’m hanging out with this guy?”.

    But at the end of the day, women are not a monolith that all think and act the same. Just as men are not a monolith that all think and act the same. So it is unwise to assume all women want the same things out of a relationship.


  • I agree that we should strive for people to be healthy. But there’s a lot of evidence to suggest that shame not only is ineffective but can actually have the opposite effect.

    Besides, I think you’re being pretty reductive. Health includes both physical and mental, we should take steps to improve both of these. And I get the sense that you specifically take issue with body positivity specifically around fat people, as I assume you don’t think being short or tall is unhealthy. In which case, you’re ignoring the economics of it (at least in America, there are a ton of government subsidies for corn, incentivizing businesses to load up our food with corn syrup).

    The issue is complex and so would any solutions. At least in America, we need to deincentivize the production of unhealthy food, better access to healthcare, and cultural shifts as well. And I’m sure there’s a whole lot I’m missing.