Same boat, except I was diagnosed before hand. I was scrolling one night and adhd content started started to appear where people were talking about how it impacted their lives (albeit via stupid lists). It actually pinpointed a lot of behaviours I exhibited and put meaning to them. I was sceptical at first but started to see more and more of the same behaviours being highlighted, so I wrote them down and took them back to my shrink, who sat down and went thru them with me and we started to work through them. Was actually quite helpful.
I’m likely to do that shortly. I’m in an environment with a few toxic colleagues who know fuck all about what needs to be done, or how to do it, but manage to impact decision making and cast doubt on my abilities and deliverables to date. I have had to step outside of my role to deliver multiple big ticket tasks (e.g. I’ve been brought on to uplift code for multiple applications, but have also had to build a MEM deployment from scratch as there was no endpoint management), but no-one has the knowledge or the interest in taking over the finished products, expecting I’ll add it to my responsibilities.
A job is about to open up elsewhere that I’ve been encouraged to apply for, so I’ll keep trudging along and will let them know at my notice period. I’ve tried so hard to get involved with no luck, so now they’ll be forced to take interest.