I wont go too far into my story because it is too hard right now. But sadly and suddenly i am facing homelessness due to transphobic family members. I am currently safe staying at a hotel for the night, but i have no job so i cant afford too many hotel stays.

I have an appointment with my therapist later this morning and i am feeling ok, all things considered and i havnt thought at all about hurting myself (and that isnt something i have a history of). I am fortunately at a fairly stable point in my life and i believe i can make it through this. But i know i cant do it alone.

I am currently trying to reach out to friends for support and i have the phone number to a shelter line but i am scared of going to one. I am hopeful that i can find something temporary but i am trying to look at every option.

I am not asking for handouts or anything like that. I know there is a mutual aid com if it comes to needing assistance if all else fails.

What i am asking for is advice from anyone that has faced this situation. Just… anything. I dont even know what to ask. I feel so lost. At least i grabbed one of my sharks before the cops escorted me out. Which is good bc i am very sad girl right now. I think i will go cry. Thanks for listening

  • Bryllyg@quokk.auOPEnglish
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    5 days ago

    Thank you so much for this advice. Incredibly valuable and very much appreciated. I will try to keep my chin up and my spirits high but I will have to start processing and accepting my new reality and that is very hard. But I have come this far.

    Thank you!!!

    • Jspelts@lemmy.worldEnglish
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      5 days ago

      Yeah, the worst part is the beginning (anxiety). But once you have food stamps loaded up on your card and you find a few safe places to pitch a tent (far away from downtown areas), you’ll have a little taste of stability. It gets easier from there.

      Remember to avoid grassy areas (think public parks) when camping. Water sprinklers tend to come on at 3 am and that’s no fun…

      • Bryllyg@quokk.auOPEnglish
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        3 days ago

        Thank you so much. I managed to get signed up for snap yesterday and on waitlist for shelter. I am willing to try a shelter just to see if they are ok here. 2 nights ago i tried sleeping in my car. It was rough. Partly because it was a little uncomf but also i was going through it. A close friend had just rejected me because she doesnt like homeless people. So i went to a place in the country we used to go decades ago. I went there to sleep and say goodbye to her in a way. If i sleep in my car again i am getting a damn pillow first. I finally realized, hey, i can put my stuffed shark behind my neck! But then i couldnt fall back to sleep and one of the farmers came home at like 3am so i got out of there.

        The queer community around here is really good, and after posting my story to enough places, peeps started reaching out asking how they could donate. I know you said to avoid motels and i will follow that advice as much as possible but this place i got last night was pretty cheap for 5 nights. I needed to feel safe while my court case plays out. I have multiple folks trying to help me find couches to surf on. And a potential lead on a longer term space.

        So, for now i am safe. I think in a few days i’ll make a seperate update post. I wanted to let you know how much your words have meant and helped. May the universe bless you friend. If you ever want to chat my DM’s are open.

        💜

          • Bryllyg@quokk.auOPEnglish
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            3 days ago

            Thank you again! I will follow up on these items this weekend. I still have prime for a couple months so this will be a good time to acquire stuff.
            These resources are super awesome!

            💜

        • Jspelts@lemmy.worldEnglish
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          3 days ago

          Glad to read that you’re doing well. A car makes all the difference in the world, so stay current on the maintenance!

          And having a community behind you definitely helps. Nice to be in a hotel for 5 nights straight, but make sure you get a tent / cot / thermal sleeping bag. A cot inside a tent is a lot more comfortable than a car (unless you tear out the backrest of the backseat entirely and convert the trunk/backseat into a sleeeping space), and campsites are far cheaper than hotels. www.freecampsites.net is also a decent resource (iOverlander is another) for finding free places to camp. Some are truck stops, other is BLM land, other is dispersed camping on Forestry land (there’s different “Boondocking” groups on social media, tons of resources on where and how to camp legally for free). I’ll be doing that when my SSI comes through. It’s actually kind of fun, I just go from campsite to campsite every few days and see the country. A car is the difference between tolerable and intolerable for a homeless person.

          Sorry to hear about your friend, sad but true that most friends really aren’t your friends especially when things get difficult. What will be amazing is the real friends you discover that either 1) you didn’t know you had or 2) you never thought you’d make.

          Sounds like you have everything handled as best as you can! Again, glad to help and feel free to ask questions. I can’t say I know everything but after 13 years of being homeless (with and without a car) I do know a few tricks. Take care.