Hoping? More like waiting for the can opener to catch on 😹

Small suitcase or large cat? Cutie either way.

Same, so fluffy 😻

I mean I keep my onions in the fridge in summer, but that’s cause if I don’t they’ll start growing within a couple weeks. Sometimes it’s out of necessity.

Yeah, I didn’t see that at all, though I can see it after a few rereads. IDK, I really can’t tell which they meant.

Same. I’ll try to educate, but I’d have better luck trying to teach a brick to tap dance with some people.

Yep, I’m not diagnosed but I’m pretty sure I have it. The one doctor I had long enough to even bring it up immediately discounted the possibility because I’d graduated high school (which he didn’t even bother checking if that was true before saying that). So many people dismiss it out of hand simply because I’m “not a complete idiot”. Yet many people with diagnosed ADHD have just assumed I’m diagnosed and are shocked when I say I’m not. One person actually laughed at me because they thought I was joking because “There’s no way you don’t have ADHD, stop messing with me”. Like I probably do, but I’m not diagnosed. Unfortunately ADHD diagnosis is far from the top of the list of shit I need to work on so it won’t happen soon.

Yeah, ADHD is really more about attention regulation, not attention deficit.

Uhhh, autism is a developmental disorder as well, it’s not a mental illness. It’s often comorbid with mental illnesses, but so is ADHD.

They just wanna argue it seems. I apparently put words in their mouth by asking a question.

I put words in your mouth by asking you a question? That’s not how that works, nice try.

But how does going through life undiagnosed and struggling help you develop coping mechanisms better than being diagnosed and knowing why you are struggling?

Huh?? Where did you get that I said ADHD means low intelligence? Oh right, nowhere cause I didn’t say it. And how is saying someone should throw their phone in the toilet a metaphor?

I’m unfortunately still undiagnosed, but I at least have managed to work on some of my other health problems. My spawn points deny that I have migraine because my MRI was clear. Yeah, a clear MRI is a requirement for diagnosis because otherwise I’d have been diagnosed with whatever they’d found instead. Testing for migraine is to rule out other issues that could be causing your symptoms. The extra stupid thing is that they deny I have health problems because “everyone in our family is so healthy”. Yeah, apparently autoimmune conditions, diabetes, cancer, meningitis, and birth defects are “healthy”. That’s literally just my immediate family, not including me.

I do however no longer live with them so their control over my life is very limited. They even tried to forbid me from having a hysterectomy because, to quote my sperm donor, “We want real grandkids” (yes, “real” means bio, not adopted). Yeah, and I like living (no seriously, my doc said it’s good I didn’t want to be pregnant because she would’ve had to strongly advise me against it). I just told the staff at the hospital that no one besides my partner was allowed in, and she was already with me so don’t let anyone else in.

So yeah, I’m in the pits of depression and still happier than when I lived with them. I’ve got a wonderful partner, sister, and friends.

Yeah, this sounds like what I was told by one doc I asked for an ADHD evaluation from, he told me I couldn’t have ADHD because I didn’t flunk outta high school (which he said without even checking if that was true). And that if I did have ADHD I would’ve struggled before adulthood and my parents would’ve gotten me care. Like oh, you mean the parents that ignored that I had pinkeye for two weeks and then lied to the doctor that it was two days? Or the parents that sent me back to school against surgeons orders? Or the parents who sent me to school knowing I had a fever? Oh, how about the ones that ignored I couldn’t bend my knee for an entire week after injuring it until it was gonna affect my grades?

I don’t think it works for anyone. Yes, you can work on coping skills without a diagnosis, but it won’t make you NT.

You don’t learn how to cope with ADHD better if you are undiagnosed than if you are diagnosed. If that was true people wouldn’t need to get diagnosed in adulthood because they would’ve developed the skills already. I need reminders for my reminders, and reminders for when I forget the second reminder and I still fail to do them. And that’s not to mention shame and ridicule you receive for “not even putting in effort” when you put in 10x as much effort and still failed. I don’t know a single person with ADHD diagnosed as an adult who got anywhere near NT levels of functioning. Actually they’re all worse than every person I know with ADHD who was diagnosed as a child. Not knowing why you are struggling doesn’t make it easier.

Yep. One of the meds I tried for depression killed my ability to feel 99% of emotions. I would literally stay in bed until I HAD to use the bathroom, and then go right back to laying down, doing absolutely nothing the whole day. I was told by a ridiculous number of people that I just had to push myself for the meds to help. Like I was eating one meal a day because I had to in order to take my meds. Living on 600 calories a day sucks, but I just didn’t care. You can’t make yourself care when have no energy.

You “take it seriously” by telling people who are struggling to destroy an expensive item? Do you want people to throw themselves in the toilet if they are doing nothing and can’t manage to move?

For me ADHD makes it hard to change tasks, and depression is not caring enough to try.

Oh, I noticed about 20 minutes later, couldn’t find it though. Or use find my phone cause it had turned off from the cold. One of my friends ended up coming over to help me look after I couldn’t find it for over an hour.