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      I went to a live Frozen show and a (male) gay couple were sitting next to me. One was crying his eyes out as he sang along while the other was laughing and filming his partner. Both dudes were big, covered in tattoos, and could kick my ass handily.

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    Why the fuck would you want “alpha” versions in the military? It’s just full of bugs and barely usable.

    I have (had) a friend who went full on Jordan Peterson and talked a lot about being an “alpha” male. I told him that I consider myself beta male, as I’ve learned from my mistakes and was upgraded to beta. He went full on bat shit crazy and told me that thinking like this is definitely not alpha material.

    He also can’t hold a job (he’s 38), and blames all his problems on females. He is not willing to work on himself, as he’s the perfect alpha male. Yeah, fuck off you ignorant piece of shit.

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        Want to know what’s even more sad about it? He was my best friend for nearly 30 years 😥 I’ve dropped all contact with him. He also can’t face facts that goes against his personal beliefs, stating that the science must be wrong, because it does not fit into his world view - this is in reference to him stating that “100% of the people how transition regrets it”. I found science papers showing that 1% regrets it, meaning 1 in 100. He said that it should be illegal to transition becuae of this. I ask “So one of one hundred people regret it, then it should be illegal for everyone?” “Yes”…

        He had a girlfriend for some time, around 13 years ago. I met my friend two years ago, and asked him how long they were together. His response “I can’t remember. She was just a placeholder girlfriend until I found someone better. You know how it is for us males” and my jaw fucking dropped. I tried for months to get him out of the psychotic thoughts, but it fell on deaf ears, so I told him that he should only contact me again if he ever sees how his world view is wrong.

        Rant over lol

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          That’s rough. It’s actually even less than 1%, and moreover when you compare this to the population average regret for all surgeries including things like knee or hip replacements which IIRC is around 14% from a study in NA, it’s even more shocking how well transition works for trans people.

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            Yeah bottom surgery has the highest regret rate (largely due to complications) at lower than many immediately lifesaving surgeries.

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          That’s rough bud.

          Good on you for giving him some chances, but he got himself down that rabbit hole and he is the one that will have to pull himself out by the bootstraps that he loves so much.

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    Conservatives are not even trying to understand LGBTQ+ people. They lump them all into one group and have labeled them as such. There is no spectrum of attributes for this group. They are simply LGBTQ+ and nothing else.

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      Mental illness doesn’t work that way. You can’t just convince a conservative that all people are inherently the same just different flavors. They 100% need someone to be inferior to them otherwise their entire philosophy is dead on arrival

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    “When you’re using a drag queen to recruit for the Navy, that’s not the people we want,” Cao said. “What we need is alpha males and alpha females who are going to rip out their own guts, eat ’em, and ask for seconds. Those are young men and women that are going to win wars.”

    Dude, you’re talking about the Navy, lmao. I can’t imagine any place in the Navy outside of the seals where you’d need or even want high-on-testosterone meat heads. Even then though, you severely underestimate a gay man’s (or woman’s) ability to be a 'roided-out meat head.

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      Also the seals are disproportionately pre transition last I heard.

      Naval intelligence on the other hand, wildly disproportionately queer.

      Hell the modern gay community has its roots in a fuck ton of people falling in gay love in WWII and deciding to stay where they were dropped off instead of going back to the middle of nowhere.

      This man needs to understand the fact that, as a heroic partisan once said, homosexuals are not cowards

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        I have a hypothesis that the reason there’s so many LGBTQ people in cybersecurity is that they learned from an early age how to hide their activities from other people using a lot of the same techniques hackers use.

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    Yeah and no weak poor people in the military either, just wealthy and powerful nepo babies whoops I mean alphas. Only people on the front lines should be politicians, millionaires, and billionaires since they are so much more effective than anyone else. /s

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    Ah yes, the best military is the one full of “alphas”, where nobody let’s anyone else tell them what to do.

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    The military is a heirarchal organization. Having individual expression in it opens the door to like doubting the mission. I actually think it would be funnier if the military just banned gender entirely: “the military has one gender and its pronouns are They/Them”

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      You joke but, “My name is Drill Sergeant, My pronoun is Drill Sergeant, My descriptor in any way coming out of your mouth is Drill Sergeant, Do you understand recruit?” has definitely been said. And the whole gender blindness thing has been tried to varying success rates. “We don’t have men and women, we have Soldiers”

      The problem comes with actual regulatory and medically required differences. For example they aren’t issuing men tampons and women are required to have a separate bathroom or latrine trench. So officially banning sex isn’t possible. But half of the force does not have the education or willingness to recognize the difference between sex and gender. (Some really are barely high school graduates of bad school systems and others are just idiot conservatives) It doesn’t really matter why they won’t recognize the difference when all of the protections for women are dropped in some units.

      To be honest, with the exception of sexual assault the military does pretty well trying to integrate women. And that may be improving, we’ve had high level, outside the chain of command, flag officers, reporting directly to the service secretary SA investigations for less than a year. (Dec 2023) So we’ll see where the data goes with that.

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    Good luck doing Jack shit without naval intelligence

    Also like half the marines are bi and closeted from what I hear

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    Not that long ago the GOP was all about how women should not be in the military.

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      They still are, but they gotta move the needle back there gradually. It’s not in vogue to restrict women to feminine roles just now.