• Pika@sh.itjust.works
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    12 hours ago

    you’ll notice the same people who give good relationship advice are also the people who have no relational attachments

    • VitoRobles@lemmy.today
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      8 hours ago

      Nailed it. I was in my mid-20s when I realized I should stop taking advice from people who weren’t living the way I wanted.

      We don’t take financial advice from homeless people. Same thing with relationship advice.

      • Holytimes@sh.itjust.works
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        3 hours ago

        Just because they are single doesn’t mean they don’t understand what they are talking about. Just like being in one doesn’t mean they understand anything either.

        I’ve known more people in my life in a relationship that couldn’t give fucking anything remotely close to healthy advice, then single people that could give you the best advice you could want.

        There are more codependent people who chase a relationship no matter how toxic or unhealthy they are. Then there are actually sane, reasonable people who have their shit figured out either single or in a relationship.

  • DagwoodIII@piefed.social
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    1 day ago

    On the other hand, if a homeless junkie tells me that shooting heroin is a terrible idea, I’m inclined to take their words to heart.

    “Don’t do what I did”

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      23 hours ago

      Yes, but I, like many before me and many more to come, have played out the exact same classical tragedy:

      Everyone: “Don’t stick your dick in crazy.”

      Me: sticks dick in crazy

      Chorus: “Woe be to our Hero, fallen to hubris, laid to waste! O! How defiant was he to the Gods and to the exhortations of his fellows! The sour reapings of his field of pride now taint his wine, a potted plant now lay shattered in his sink for some reason, and his Game boy Advance game collection now lay in the hands of the deceiver who hath no Game Boy, nor knowledge of their value, nor interest in gaming!”

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    21 hours ago

    I’m that friend. I’ve helped start or save relationships. Coaches don’t play.

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    22 hours ago

    A former friend of mine at uni became obsessed with a girl who worked there, and started to develop all sorts of creepy behavior towards her (watching her for hours on end, stalking her home down quiet country lanes, found out where she lived, etc). All without ever trying to talk with her or ask her out. He became fixated with her, and of course she noticed his obsession and became uncomfortable and started to stress out.

    At one point I told him that his behavior wasn’t cool, and that he should either ask her out and live with the consequences or move on.

    He got really angry at me, which didn’t surprise me. But one of the things he said to me was that I didn’t understand women and that’s why I was and would always be single. It was honestly funny because he was also single at that time.

    Roll on the years and I’ve been happily married for a couple of decades. And from what I’ve been told through mutual acquaintances he’s still single. And probably still stalking women.

    This meme reminded me of him.

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      11 hours ago

      On behalf of all women, thank you for calling him out. We need more of that from other guys.

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      1 day ago

      Have an acquaintance that is single and went through a messy divorce. Still tries to give unsolicited advice to everyone. Don’t tell people to clean their room if yours is perpetually messy.

      • TrackinDaKraken@lemmy.world
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        24 hours ago

        Depends on the advice. If they’re talking about their mistakes, that can be informative. But, if they discuss their mistakes and then say “… and this is what you should do, instead”, that’s just unproven speculation on their part.

        But, at the end of the day, relationship advice is mostly useless, because only the most general advice works for everyone. The specific issues between two, complex people can’t be understood and advised for by listening to one side of the story for a few minutes.

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    22 hours ago

    I know so much about relationships that I know I don’t want to be in one. I can still offer advice on how to navigate the problems I’ve decided I don’t want to deal with anymore.