Not asking about achievements in work/love/health/etc. but about your esence as a person. Like how you wish people would describe you.
I want to be me, I am me, I’d say it’s going well.
Came to post the same answer. Comfortable in being me, and looking forward to keep improving myself incrementally. But the fundamentals are in place, IMO.
I never wanted to be anything, and I was exceptionally successful at that so far. :/
I want to be free from social expectations of who I should be.
Good question. Lots of interesting answers here.
Physically im not as fit as I’d like. I want to look like a roider but I dont want to roid. My ideal build is the guy in the gas mask leaning on the gate. I’d like to be someone who dresses nice and puts effort into looking good but I’m just not that guy no matter how much I want to be.
Organisation wise I’m significantly behind. I want to on top of everything, having a plan for the next 6 months buying gifts ahead of time, making lunch for work every day. But I’m battling to get the rubbish out each week and missing any event I’m not directly reminded about. I cant plan to save my life I cant even follow cooking instructions.
Mentally im close to where i want to be. I’m generally pretty content which is my biggest problem I don’t feel the need to go do uncomfortable things. People say im smart but they have low/no expertise so its not satisfying they don’t that im far away from where i want to be. One day I’d like to be at the point where someone i lookup to is impressed with my work.
It’s a hard question because i have no idea how others view me. It’s hard for me to understand others. all I can do is put my thoughts in their body and then evaluate myself only using what i know they know. When people speak of me it’s a completely unrecognisable person to me.
I want to be a somewhat competent human. I am not even close to achieving that.
The way I act, is pretty close to how I’d hope anyone would. It has a cost, so I’m willing to just say that, even though it’s a bit of a brag.
The actual impact is still pretty small. I guess I wish I was better at things, so it would matter more.
totally not doing what I intended work wise. meant to do reasearch and teach at the collegiac level and did IT work instead. Love never had really thought about it. I mean thought I might meet someone and have kids. Did meet someone and I think we have about as good a relationship as anyone. No kids and that was definately a decision we made and agree on. Did not think to much about health. Who I am as a person is about where I would want to be excpet I have this obsession with truth and its been much more elusive. I mean to the point of it being kinda tilting at windmills.
I don’t have an end goal.
At my current stage of life I’m trying to have a closer relationship with my nieces and nephews who are entering early adulthood.
My early 20s were probably the hardest period of time in my life, and older adults were particularly critical of me when I looked for guidance. So now I’m trying to be a better listener when they’re struggling.
I wish I had the ultimate super-power. The power to be a physical ghost. The ability to grasp and touch only what I want. Everything else just phases through me incorporeal-like.
Then I go and burn down every single church in the world, and I hunt down every single fascist and billionaire. I kill them slowly screaming on live tv. I declare the world free of Capitalism and vow to return to destroy any who covet money or gods.
Well that’s the dream anyway!
I care more about accomplishing and learning things. I’m me and as long as I’m not an asshole, I don’t see a reason to try to be someone I’m not.
I am, by nature, a naive and eager person. I am also on the autism spectrum
I have spent my entire life trying to feel included, trying to see the best in people and yearning for friends and good times
I’ve used my weird sense of humor, my hyper spirit, and my childlike energy, at about as late as the age of 23, to try to amuse others. And for a bit maybe I did
But now, I wish to be different. I wish to be reserved, more brooding for a change. I wish I could be less chipper and SpongeBobesque, because it’s done nothing but embarrass or hurt me
I’m turning 25 now, growing out my first beard. It’s been a couple of years since I abruptly stopped acting that way. Life feels dull now, but I still feel like if I can just prove to the world that I’m not weak and childlike, then maybe I can win in some small way
Reads very similar to me. I’m mid 30s and still a kid, dont really care what others think, I’m not gonna be a boring ass adult. Lost a lot of friends due to them bring boring as shit and ignoring me. Not a big deal, I make more friends.
(Note that this doesnt mean being irresponsible and immature. I mean not giving in to having a TV in my bedroom so I can watch football and the news all day after work then sleep, and never do anything else. No thanks. )
I also can’t grow a beard lol.
You do you but dont change yourself because you think its wrong. Unless that makes you happy.
I’ll never be a football guy that’s for sure. But yeah I’m still trying to figure myself out. Nothing wrong with eccentric maturity I suppose. Still be a silly little shit but don’t overdo it?
People also used to make fun of me for being goofy and autistic, still do, and I don’t really give a shit now.
Like I said you be you, maybe if you feel like changing it up see how you like it but dont force yourself to be a dark brooding person if thats not you at all. Just my opinion
Life feels dull now, but I still feel like if I can just prove to the world that I’m not weak and childlike, then maybe I can win in some small way
You’ll discover in the years ahead that the secret is not caring what the world thinks. You don’t need to prove to the world anything. You can find yourself, decide what values are important to you, and then live your live according to your definition of whats right. When people say “be true to yourself” this is what they’re talking about.
There’s a step beyond this too. When you know whats important to you, you make a real evaluation of who you are and what you do. You decide if your actions and behaviors match your values. If not, you work to make improvements in yourself. You do it because its important to you and not someone else. Improvements like these can be difficult adopt. You don’t have to do it all overnight. Some improvements aren’t a one-and-done but rather a way of living. I’m positive I’ll go to my grave continuing to try to be a better version of myself, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Each day take the action that, at the end of each day, makes you proud of yourself. The race is long, but only ever against the old version of yourself.
I’m happy with my identity, but thanks to political persecution and lots of international moves my stability has always been shaky
I’d say I’m who I need to be. To be at least tolerated by others, I was taught to be friendly, kind, and accepting of others so that’s what I try to be. In terms of who I want to be? I never had a goal so I’d say I’m where I need to be.
I want people to say they’ve never heard of me
I’ve never heard of you, Eat_Your_Paisley <3
I’m pretty close to being who I can bother to be. I should be better at visiting family, I should be better at talking to my friends, but anything involving people exhausts me.
