• printf("%s", name);@piefed.blahaj.zone
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    14 hours ago

    It depends on my mental health. During certain periods, it’s every day. Other periods, nothing for a month or so. The worse my mental condition, the more I watch. Not that I pretend to know what the “real” or “correct” way to watch porn is, but I only ever use it as a coping mechanism. It helps me escape reality for a few minutes. Recently, I have begun trying to limit my consumption, because I don’t really want to escape reality. As of today, I haven’t watched anything for about two weeks.

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      9 hours ago

      Same. If I’m at home trying to sleep I will genuinely have a panic attack without it. It’s the only thing that strongly occupies my attention enough to prevent a panic attack from setting in (that I can do while in bed)

      Anything else is not personally engaging enough to prevent my mind from wandering (like listening to music, browsing Lemmy, or reading)

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    14 hours ago

    I’ve toned down the porn and trained my brain to settle (usually) for clothed images of hot people and its imagination. It feels better and it leaves more room for escalation

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    18 hours ago

    Occasionally. It’s frustrating that most free porn sites are kind of bad at search and filter. You’d think a tagging system would be easy to implement but most sites seem to just have a barely functional search.

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    22 hours ago

    It’s probably been years. I prefer to read my porn. My brain just can’t get around the fact that so much porn is non consensual, there’s a lot of human trafficking, and even the ones who do consent aren’t usually being paid well. And there’s not a very good way to sus out the more ethical to the less ethical porn. Also the second someone starts obviously faking things, it ruins everything for me so, reading it is just significantly easier for me.

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    20 hours ago

    My wife and I used to watch porn very often. Nowadays it’s almost never. I cannot speak for her but for me the fakeness of it all became very cringey for me. Now, if I do watch, I stick to Lustery. It’s a site that focuses on real couples. Watching loving couples laughing and enjoying each other is a lot hotter to me than most of the fake stuff out there.

    Hilariously, many couples post travel vlogs with a sprinkle of sex in the end. I tend to watch the travel bit and skip the sex because I’m far more interested in the non-touristy places they go because the income comes from the porn bit rather than trying to be an influencer.

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      14 hours ago

      the non-touristy places they go because the income comes from the porn bit rather than trying to be an influencer.

      That’s actually so clever! Paid to do what you love, on both fronts

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      18 hours ago

      Watching loving couples laughing and enjoying each other is a lot hotter to me than most of the fake stuff out there.

      So hot! I’ve really enjoyed the evolution of porn in this way. So many candid, loving couples having fun together!

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    23 hours ago

    It varies as with anything in life. Sometimes it’s every day, sometimes I’ll go months without.